Hey all! I know it's been a few days. I must admit I slacked off just a bit these past few days with my blogging. Before I go ahead and talk more about the title for this blog, allow me to update you on my anniversary celebration last weekend. First off, let me just say God is GREAT! I am so blessed to be able to say I've made it through one whole entire year of marriage WHEW! Just recently I found out a good friend of mines from college was divorced after only nine months. I could not get over how upsetting that news was. I kept repeating to my husband, "Man...I just can't believe they got divorced!" This couple was the annoying & overly-affectionate in public type of couple. They just couldn't keep their hands off each other no matter their surroundings. It definitely seemed as if they were madly in love with each other. I guess things aren't always what they seemed to be huh? Needless to say, they have both moved on with their lives. One is newly engaged and the other is in a serious relationship. I am happy they both were able to find love again despite their failed love with one another.
Anywho, back to me :-) LoL! After an entire year of learning about each other, picking up on each other's habits (good & bad), learning how to pick our battles, dealing with the combining of two incomes, becoming new leaders of our youth group, working in new jobs, living with my parents, learning how to live in each other's space 24/7, etc. I am happy to say that we did it! Yes, we did it for one whole year and it has been such a learning & growing experience for the both of us. Although we share the same culture, values, & beliefs, we come from two entirely different worlds. It's exciting to know that for the rest of our lives we will be learning how to blend both of our worlds to create a harmonious & loving world for the both of us and our children. With that said, we spent our one year anniversary enjoying each other's company and reflecting back on the crazy year we endured. We didn't do much in other's opinion, but we did exactly what WE NEEDED to do.
Here's where being faithful in the little comes into play...
Throughout this year, my husband & I have endured much financial hardship. Even with budgeting & being faithful in our tithes/offerings, we still found ourselves struggling. It has definitely been hard. *grabs kleenex* Our financial hardship is something extremely hard for me to talk about. I get emotional every time, even before I was pregnant (so I can't blame the hormones ha!). My husband has tried his hardest to pull in as many hours as he could with being a part-time employee, and my hours were cut when my boss noticed a drop in my attendance due to my 1st trimester of pregnancy. It didn't seem fair that my husband was such a hard & faithful worker yet they wouldn't grant him a full-time position. It also didn't seem fair that my boss would cut my hours due to my pregnancy. For several months we really felt an injustice was done to us both. Unlike my husband, I spent many nights awake trying to cry myself to sleep & wondering how we were going to pay our dues without suffering from late fees.
Even though we were struggling and I had every right to cry about our situation, I was going about it ALL wrong. You see my Husband, instead of lying awake at night worrying & boohoo'ing like me, he pushed himself to work even harder. I know right, how HOT is that? LoL! He went about this the right way. Even though he had little hours to work with, he pushed himself to be even MORE faithful than he already was. So because he exercised his strength in the little hours he had, starting May 13, 2013 he will be a FULL-TIME employee! HALLELUJAH!! God always honors those who honor Him & He is for SURE faithful in His promises.
My job now is to pick up my face off the ground and start being faithful in what God has given me. My hours were restored back to me (YAY!) but since my boss did me so dirty the first time around, I haven't forgiven her & I'm still lowkey holding a grudge towards her. I mean seriously, what kind of boss cuts your hours when you're 2 1/2 months pregnant?! Not to mention this happened right before the holidays *2 thumbs all the way down*. Discriminatory & unlawlful? Heck yes! Buuuuuut...I need to see the silver lining in this all. Yes my boss did me wrong, but she gave me back my hours. Instead of moping around I should be leaping for joy. *sigh* I SO need to get over this in a quickness. Being upset with my boss has really affected my performance & my energy. After all she DID restore my full-time position. My prayer now & forever is that God will help me to be faithful in the little things. Not because He will bless me with much in doing so, but so that I don't overlook the blessings that the little things bring.
Well folks...that's my time. Enjoy your Thursday!
P.S.
Are my blogs too lengthy? I just can't seem to end at a good length *shrugs* Sorry yall!
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Thursday, April 18, 2013
Chaaaange...
Lately...my body has been going through so many changes due to my pregnancy. Before pregnancy, I thought I was well aware of all the changes a woman's body goes through with expecting a child. Now that I'm actually going through the whole shabang, I'm thinking to myself, "Now, either woman are not as descriptive as they need to be when talking about pregnancy or...I'm in a boat of my own with these experiences." I mean really, I heard about the swelling limbs, the stretch marks, the cravings, and all of that, but I've never heard about having a tough time brushing my tongue because of the increased gag reflexes. I've also never heard of being winded after walking up three steps. I haven't had any swelling yet, I barely have any stretch marks, and my cravings aren't as bad as women make them out to be.
Ahhhh I don't know. Maybe I'm making this more than what it really is?! Either way,my favorite part about being pregnant is feeling my son move around inside my tummy. I think it's so cute! I talk to him from time to time asking him why he's moving around or if he's uncomfortable with something I just ate or with how I'm sitting LoL! It may sound weird, but I get a kick out of talking to my son (: Sometimes when I look down at my stomach knowing that a life is growing inside of me, I can't help but think why some women don't ever want to get pregnant or have children. I mean...doesn't God place the desire inside us to be a mother? I have no biblical proof for that, but I can't help but think that if God commands us to "be fruitful and multiply" then why wouldn't he place the desire inside of us to be parents? Just a thought.
On another note, my mouth has been getting me in to trouble alot these days. I've been guitly of a few Freudian slips here and there, but lately I feel like I'm lacking the whole "think before you speak" thing. With that said, I'm just going to blog it all out.
Here are a few things annoying me at the moment that are just better to blog rather than tweet or speak.
1. I'm all too annoyed with people who vent about their drama on social networks and then have the NERVE to say, "None of this invovles yall, so stay outta my business!" Umm...sorry bro, you made it our business by making it public information. If you don't want anyone's opinion about your boo's baby mama trippin' on you, then I suggest you keep that to yourself. Once you make your private matters public, you have given a open invitation for everyone to get a word in about your circumstance.
2. I'm all too fed up with folks talking about their Christianity in one status, and then cursing someone out in the next status. Not only that, but folks who tweet about being strong in the Lord, yet talking bout some "LAUGHING MY A$$ OFF!!!" Either they're bipolar, or they on some whole different type of religion. Last I remembered, as Christians we're supposed to be representatives of Christ in every way, shape, & form. Now, how can you represent Christ while having a potty mouth? Where in the bible does it mention Jesus teaching the parables or talking to his disciples while dropping the F-bomb? I mean, how would you like it if your Pastor or Priest threw in a few curse words with his sermon every Sunday? It'd seem hypocritical wouldn't it? Well...you're no different my friends. Just as a Pastor stands before his congregation in full representation of Christ, you stand before all your friends on social networks as a representative of Christ.Your walk & your talk MUST match! No exceptions. Just as I'm telling you, I'm telling myself. And if all you can say back to that is,"Nobody's perfect" then I'd say to you, find a different argument cause that one's played out!
3. I haaaaate liars! I especially hate it when they lie about lying. What in the haaaaaystack?! Maybe for every lie you tell, a cold sore should grow on your lips. Let's face it, your nose hasn't grown but I knooooow you be tellin' fibs!!
4. Grammatical errors at an all time HIGH on twitter. It's SUPER annoying that people between the ages 17-30+ don't know the difference between the following:
--then vs. than
--there, their, they're
--now a days NOT now and days
--ride or die NOT ride and die
--conversing NOT conversating
--might as well NOT minus well
This list can go on folks...and don't EVEN get me started on the mispelled Samoan words...smh.
Ok...I need to get back to work now LoL! So I'm going to have to cut it right here.
Bye!
Ahhhh I don't know. Maybe I'm making this more than what it really is?! Either way,my favorite part about being pregnant is feeling my son move around inside my tummy. I think it's so cute! I talk to him from time to time asking him why he's moving around or if he's uncomfortable with something I just ate or with how I'm sitting LoL! It may sound weird, but I get a kick out of talking to my son (: Sometimes when I look down at my stomach knowing that a life is growing inside of me, I can't help but think why some women don't ever want to get pregnant or have children. I mean...doesn't God place the desire inside us to be a mother? I have no biblical proof for that, but I can't help but think that if God commands us to "be fruitful and multiply" then why wouldn't he place the desire inside of us to be parents? Just a thought.
On another note, my mouth has been getting me in to trouble alot these days. I've been guitly of a few Freudian slips here and there, but lately I feel like I'm lacking the whole "think before you speak" thing. With that said, I'm just going to blog it all out.
Here are a few things annoying me at the moment that are just better to blog rather than tweet or speak.
1. I'm all too annoyed with people who vent about their drama on social networks and then have the NERVE to say, "None of this invovles yall, so stay outta my business!" Umm...sorry bro, you made it our business by making it public information. If you don't want anyone's opinion about your boo's baby mama trippin' on you, then I suggest you keep that to yourself. Once you make your private matters public, you have given a open invitation for everyone to get a word in about your circumstance.
2. I'm all too fed up with folks talking about their Christianity in one status, and then cursing someone out in the next status. Not only that, but folks who tweet about being strong in the Lord, yet talking bout some "LAUGHING MY A$$ OFF!!!" Either they're bipolar, or they on some whole different type of religion. Last I remembered, as Christians we're supposed to be representatives of Christ in every way, shape, & form. Now, how can you represent Christ while having a potty mouth? Where in the bible does it mention Jesus teaching the parables or talking to his disciples while dropping the F-bomb? I mean, how would you like it if your Pastor or Priest threw in a few curse words with his sermon every Sunday? It'd seem hypocritical wouldn't it? Well...you're no different my friends. Just as a Pastor stands before his congregation in full representation of Christ, you stand before all your friends on social networks as a representative of Christ.Your walk & your talk MUST match! No exceptions. Just as I'm telling you, I'm telling myself. And if all you can say back to that is,"Nobody's perfect" then I'd say to you, find a different argument cause that one's played out!
3. I haaaaate liars! I especially hate it when they lie about lying. What in the haaaaaystack?! Maybe for every lie you tell, a cold sore should grow on your lips. Let's face it, your nose hasn't grown but I knooooow you be tellin' fibs!!
4. Grammatical errors at an all time HIGH on twitter. It's SUPER annoying that people between the ages 17-30+ don't know the difference between the following:
--then vs. than
--there, their, they're
--now a days NOT now and days
--ride or die NOT ride and die
--conversing NOT conversating
--might as well NOT minus well
This list can go on folks...and don't EVEN get me started on the mispelled Samoan words...smh.
Ok...I need to get back to work now LoL! So I'm going to have to cut it right here.
Bye!
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
Pahtnah Let Me Updaaaate You!
Since I didn't quite make it to Blog City yesterday here are my updates from the weekend...
The wedding went absolutely well! Even though David Tutera was running the show, I barely noticed him or the cameras. I was way too busy catching up with family, snapping pictures, & enjoying the delicious appetizers. I don't mean to toot my own horn, but TOOOOT-A-LOOOOT! I'm proud to say that my almost-six-months-prego self rocked my 3-inch heels the ENTIRE night & didn't need to switch out with my flats I had in the car. Unfortunately, that is all the information I can give about the wedding right now. Since the show won't air for a while, details must be kept to the bare minimum.
Aside from the wedding, my weekend was full of youth ministry events, cleaning the church, setting up for Sunday morning's church breakfast, singing with the worship team, and lots more. Needless to say, I woke up Monday morning feeling like I had a hangover. I told my husband, I don't want to have another marathon weekend for a whiiiiile. I can handle it, I just can't handle not getting the rest I need to keep my son growing healthily inside of me.
With that said, THIS WEEKEND IS MY 1-YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY AHHHH!!!! I cannot believe time went by so fast! These minutes in our days are truly like grains of sand escaping my fingers. We have been so busy and too caught up with work & ministry that we totally did not plan an outting for our anniversary. Sad. No one should ever get that busy. After realizing the oversight in our schedules, my husband & I postponed all of our weekend events & will be spending our time relaxing...just the two of us...on an island...far...far...away...*slaps myself* who am I kidding? We're not doing anything too fancy. I ain't eeeven trippin' though as long as it involves TONS of alone time with him & relaxation. My husband starts a new work schedule come May, in which I won't see him alot. MAJOR sad face! A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do right? *sigh* I keep telling myself it's for the better. It is for the better. No more part-time for my man! YIPPEEEEE!!
As for the little man growing inside of me, I am pretty sure my stomach has doubled in size since last Wednesday. It is officially hard for me to get out of the car, and I am starting to wobble everywhere. Oh the joy of expecting a child <3 The urge to meet my little man is getting stronger as the days go by. My husband and I are just THRILLED!! Although we did not intend to have kids this early on in our marriage, we know this is a definite move of God. I mean really, who gets pregnant while on contraceptives?! LoL!! His ways are better than our ways amen?! (:
I believe that is all I have...okay not really, but it's almost lunch time & my son is doing kart-wheels in my belly at this very moment. Time to roll out! Stay fly guys (;
The wedding went absolutely well! Even though David Tutera was running the show, I barely noticed him or the cameras. I was way too busy catching up with family, snapping pictures, & enjoying the delicious appetizers. I don't mean to toot my own horn, but TOOOOT-A-LOOOOT! I'm proud to say that my almost-six-months-prego self rocked my 3-inch heels the ENTIRE night & didn't need to switch out with my flats I had in the car. Unfortunately, that is all the information I can give about the wedding right now. Since the show won't air for a while, details must be kept to the bare minimum.
Aside from the wedding, my weekend was full of youth ministry events, cleaning the church, setting up for Sunday morning's church breakfast, singing with the worship team, and lots more. Needless to say, I woke up Monday morning feeling like I had a hangover. I told my husband, I don't want to have another marathon weekend for a whiiiiile. I can handle it, I just can't handle not getting the rest I need to keep my son growing healthily inside of me.
With that said, THIS WEEKEND IS MY 1-YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY AHHHH!!!! I cannot believe time went by so fast! These minutes in our days are truly like grains of sand escaping my fingers. We have been so busy and too caught up with work & ministry that we totally did not plan an outting for our anniversary. Sad. No one should ever get that busy. After realizing the oversight in our schedules, my husband & I postponed all of our weekend events & will be spending our time relaxing...just the two of us...on an island...far...far...away...*slaps myself* who am I kidding? We're not doing anything too fancy. I ain't eeeven trippin' though as long as it involves TONS of alone time with him & relaxation. My husband starts a new work schedule come May, in which I won't see him alot. MAJOR sad face! A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do right? *sigh* I keep telling myself it's for the better. It is for the better. No more part-time for my man! YIPPEEEEE!!
As for the little man growing inside of me, I am pretty sure my stomach has doubled in size since last Wednesday. It is officially hard for me to get out of the car, and I am starting to wobble everywhere. Oh the joy of expecting a child <3 The urge to meet my little man is getting stronger as the days go by. My husband and I are just THRILLED!! Although we did not intend to have kids this early on in our marriage, we know this is a definite move of God. I mean really, who gets pregnant while on contraceptives?! LoL!! His ways are better than our ways amen?! (:
I believe that is all I have...okay not really, but it's almost lunch time & my son is doing kart-wheels in my belly at this very moment. Time to roll out! Stay fly guys (;
Thursday, April 11, 2013
You can call me Rambo...ooops...I mean, Ramble (;
This is entry is full-on 'bout to be random...enjoy!
Let's see...where to start first...
Wedding Bliss!
My dearest cousin who has been like a brother to me my entire life is getting married tomorrow!! Let me tell you, SOOOO many girls growing up would befriend me so they could boyfriend him. Ruuuude right? Haha! He was always the talk of the girl cliques in elementary, middle school, & high school. Not just one type of girl liked this boy. He had girls who were student athletes, band geeks, punk rockers, chunties, ASB reps, gospel choir singers, etc.ON him! Literally half of my friendships in school started with the line, "Is Eveni your cousin?" Hahaha! Of course being that good overprotective cousin, I always told the ladies he was taken =P sue me, I knew he wasn't taken, but sheesh! These girls weren't good enough for him!
I'm happy to say that all these years later in our mid-twenties, my bro has found him an AWESOME woman! She fits him perfectly & is everything he's talked about settling down with since we were kids. They've dated for quite some time before getting engaged, & we (my family & I) never doubted once that she was the one for him. I'm beyoooond GEEEKED for them! The infamous David Tutera from WEtv's David Tutera Unveiled has chosen to plan their weddng *tears* How cool is that?! I can't think of any other couple more deserving of such a blessing. Tomorrow, we shall celebrate them like it's 1999 on NYE!! Oh, and don't you even doubt for a SECOND that my prego behind will be cutting a rug at the reception LoL!
Work Place
Work lately has been work...I find myself now more than ever wanting to run my own business & be my own boss. Well, God is my boss no matter where I'm employed, so yeah. This whole cubicle thing is not for me. When I'm not in my cubicle, I'm conducting workshops. Conducting workshops is the funnest thing I do here, except for the fact I only do it once a week. There are SOOO many career options out there for me that fit who I am as a person. Why limit myself? If anyone has stopped me from pursuing my dreams, it's myself. Every other area of my life is fulfilled for where I'm at right now except for my career path. *sigh* Give me a sign Lord! Lead me to the career where I can best build Your kingdom!
Womb Service
I am currently in my 2nd trimester of being pregnant. In 2 more weeks I'll be in my 3rd trimester. Let me just say, I have become hungrier as the days progress. In the beginning of my pregnancy, I had zero appetite. My husband literally had to force me to eat. Oh but it's all opposite of that now. When I crave something, I HAVE to have it. There ain't no substitutions, no waiting till the morning, no. What I crave, I NEED to have. One night I was craving a cinnamon roll with extra frosting from Cinnabon...and when I say one night, I really mean one morning at 3am. Being the kind & considerate wife that I am learning to be and all, I decided to not bother my husband in the middle of his dreams to go fetch me a cinnabon. Nope, instead I woke up & made myself some French toast. Well...yeah, that didn't do it. I ended up throwing it all away & forced myself to go back to sleep & avoid the craving. However, when I woke up, I still had the crave for cinnabon...so Pops took me to work & made a little pit-stop in the mall for my much-desired cinnamon roll. Yummmmmy!! I tell you about this baby in my womb...whatever he wants, he gets....LoL! For now that is (:
Wombeo's Gramma Isadora
Since my husband and I have decided to name our first-born son after him, his name will be Romeo. As for right now, we've been calling him Wombeo since he hasn't quite made his entrance here on Earth. Anywho, yesterday, my husband couldn't take off of work, so my Mom accompanied me to my appointment. I first met with my Geneticist because I have a hereditary disease that runs in my family on both sides, and I just wanted to know what the chances are of it being passed on to my kids. Afterwards I had my ultrasound appointment. Can I just say that having my Mom there was the best feeling? (:
At first she was acting all tough-guy on me. She was saying things like, "Am I going up with you to your appointment? If not I'm staying in the car. You want me to wait in the waiting room while you go in? If so, I have my iPad so I'll be fine." The whole time I'm thinking to myself, "Seriously Mom? This is your first grandchild & you're acting like this?" Hahahaha oh GOSH! Anywho, I feel like she wanted to be invited in & included. Thus, I included her (: I was so excited that she came with me yesterday. When she saw Wombeo in the ultrasound, she had this expression on her face that I've never seen before. She was goooone smiling though! After my appointment we got in the car and she goes, "So...those ultrasound pictures are mine right? Since I'm his Gramma Isadora and I came with you?" LoL! Yesssss Mom, they're YOURS! Then while my Dad was driving me to work this morning he asks, "When's your next appointment? I want to come to the next one. I want to see my grandson." Hahahaha that's more like it Dad, invite yourself! Gotta love my parents!
Ahhhhh....that's my time folks! Peace & blessings. Peace. &. Blessings.
Let's see...where to start first...
Wedding Bliss!
My dearest cousin who has been like a brother to me my entire life is getting married tomorrow!! Let me tell you, SOOOO many girls growing up would befriend me so they could boyfriend him. Ruuuude right? Haha! He was always the talk of the girl cliques in elementary, middle school, & high school. Not just one type of girl liked this boy. He had girls who were student athletes, band geeks, punk rockers, chunties, ASB reps, gospel choir singers, etc.ON him! Literally half of my friendships in school started with the line, "Is Eveni your cousin?" Hahaha! Of course being that good overprotective cousin, I always told the ladies he was taken =P sue me, I knew he wasn't taken, but sheesh! These girls weren't good enough for him!
I'm happy to say that all these years later in our mid-twenties, my bro has found him an AWESOME woman! She fits him perfectly & is everything he's talked about settling down with since we were kids. They've dated for quite some time before getting engaged, & we (my family & I) never doubted once that she was the one for him. I'm beyoooond GEEEKED for them! The infamous David Tutera from WEtv's David Tutera Unveiled has chosen to plan their weddng *tears* How cool is that?! I can't think of any other couple more deserving of such a blessing. Tomorrow, we shall celebrate them like it's 1999 on NYE!! Oh, and don't you even doubt for a SECOND that my prego behind will be cutting a rug at the reception LoL!
Work Place
Work lately has been work...I find myself now more than ever wanting to run my own business & be my own boss. Well, God is my boss no matter where I'm employed, so yeah. This whole cubicle thing is not for me. When I'm not in my cubicle, I'm conducting workshops. Conducting workshops is the funnest thing I do here, except for the fact I only do it once a week. There are SOOO many career options out there for me that fit who I am as a person. Why limit myself? If anyone has stopped me from pursuing my dreams, it's myself. Every other area of my life is fulfilled for where I'm at right now except for my career path. *sigh* Give me a sign Lord! Lead me to the career where I can best build Your kingdom!
Womb Service
I am currently in my 2nd trimester of being pregnant. In 2 more weeks I'll be in my 3rd trimester. Let me just say, I have become hungrier as the days progress. In the beginning of my pregnancy, I had zero appetite. My husband literally had to force me to eat. Oh but it's all opposite of that now. When I crave something, I HAVE to have it. There ain't no substitutions, no waiting till the morning, no. What I crave, I NEED to have. One night I was craving a cinnamon roll with extra frosting from Cinnabon...and when I say one night, I really mean one morning at 3am. Being the kind & considerate wife that I am learning to be and all, I decided to not bother my husband in the middle of his dreams to go fetch me a cinnabon. Nope, instead I woke up & made myself some French toast. Well...yeah, that didn't do it. I ended up throwing it all away & forced myself to go back to sleep & avoid the craving. However, when I woke up, I still had the crave for cinnabon...so Pops took me to work & made a little pit-stop in the mall for my much-desired cinnamon roll. Yummmmmy!! I tell you about this baby in my womb...whatever he wants, he gets....LoL! For now that is (:
Wombeo's Gramma Isadora
Since my husband and I have decided to name our first-born son after him, his name will be Romeo. As for right now, we've been calling him Wombeo since he hasn't quite made his entrance here on Earth. Anywho, yesterday, my husband couldn't take off of work, so my Mom accompanied me to my appointment. I first met with my Geneticist because I have a hereditary disease that runs in my family on both sides, and I just wanted to know what the chances are of it being passed on to my kids. Afterwards I had my ultrasound appointment. Can I just say that having my Mom there was the best feeling? (:
At first she was acting all tough-guy on me. She was saying things like, "Am I going up with you to your appointment? If not I'm staying in the car. You want me to wait in the waiting room while you go in? If so, I have my iPad so I'll be fine." The whole time I'm thinking to myself, "Seriously Mom? This is your first grandchild & you're acting like this?" Hahahaha oh GOSH! Anywho, I feel like she wanted to be invited in & included. Thus, I included her (: I was so excited that she came with me yesterday. When she saw Wombeo in the ultrasound, she had this expression on her face that I've never seen before. She was goooone smiling though! After my appointment we got in the car and she goes, "So...those ultrasound pictures are mine right? Since I'm his Gramma Isadora and I came with you?" LoL! Yesssss Mom, they're YOURS! Then while my Dad was driving me to work this morning he asks, "When's your next appointment? I want to come to the next one. I want to see my grandson." Hahahaha that's more like it Dad, invite yourself! Gotta love my parents!
Ahhhhh....that's my time folks! Peace & blessings. Peace. &. Blessings.
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Women in the workplace...such emotional creatures.
I am not a first time blogger, but this is my first post under this account. Allow me to share my current thoughts...
I'm blogging to you from my cubicle here at work. Yes, I should be doing work, but I have a lot to say at the moment, and can't share it with the people around me :-) catch my drift? Feel free to sit back, relax, and enjoy the read. This may serve as a great time-killer. Key word: may.
Here's a little background of my work surroundings: We have about 22 employees on staff. Out of the 22 we have on staff, only six of them are men. Imagine if you will, working with 16 women between the ages of 25-66. The young adult women are mostly married, without children, and do not like working here. The middle aged women are menopausal (not taking medication), have been married for years, have children as old as I am (or older), and do like working here depending on their mood.
Now imagine all the behaviors that one woman envelopes throughout everyday life...especially depending on if it's that time of the month or not. Now multiply that by 16, add in her everyday struggles at home (spouse, kids, finances, etc.), plus her insecurities (weight gain, wrinkles, etc.) , and don't forget to add in life's unexpected happenings (death of a loved one, return of an old flame, car accident, pregnant teenage daughter, etc.). Needless to say, I work in an environment full of emotional women. We have our good days & bad days here, just like any other office I suppose.
However, it wouldn't hurt every now and then for these women to gain control over their emotions. We have 24 hours in a day to work with, 8 of those are spent sleeping (give or take), another 8 of those hours is spent here in the work place, and the other 8? Well that's on you however you chose to spend it. Since we're in the office 8 hours a day, I'd appreciate it if my female co-workers would do their best to not bring their issues here with them. I can always tell when one of my co-workers is in a funk because she's typing hard on her keyboard, slamming books/papers/pens & any other slammable item on her desk, she walks sternly, hold no smile, gives short-answers, snaps when asked a simple question, sighs heavily every 3 seconds, avoids eye contact, and the list goes on.
It's ANNOYING. I understand you may not be in he best of moods, but sheeeeesh, save all that energy for the gym sister girl! Slam things in the comfort of your own home, not the office. Just because you're having a bad day doesn't mean we all have to know about it & have a bad day alongside you. I refuuuuuse to join any "throw-a-fit" pity parties while at work because quite simply, the office is already a not so pleasurable place to be when you live in sunny southern California. Therefore, I chose to make the BEST inside these four walls for the eight hours I have to spend here because as soon as I can clock out I will be enjoying the sun for the 2 and a half hours I have left until it sets.
I honestly believe flashing your mood swings at work is a bit unprofessional. I will not be looking to working on a project with an Emo-Emily or a Pity-Party Patty. That woman is normally the last one I'd team up with. Since most women are discerning anyways that even if you didn't emotionally act up, another woman could tell something's up. Women have an intuition unlike men. We know when another woman is going through something even if we barely know them. That's just how God designed us. Because we have such great intuition, we end up asking our co-workers what's wrong or if everything's okay. We ask those questions without all the snappy drama.
This is what I WISH I could say to my overly dramatic & emotional co-workers: CHILL OUT HOMEGIRL. The women who GENUINELY care for what you're going through will discern it & will ask. Acting childishly to let everyone know you're having a bad day attracts negative attention & opens up room for people to gossip about you. On the other hand, whatever is bugging you outside of work, you've go to learn how to LEAVE it outside of work. Don't bring it into the work place with you because it'll affect your performance & your effectiveness as an employee. The battle is won in your mind & in your thoughts. If you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and head to work with that wrong-side-of-the-bed mentality, chances are, you're going to have a bad day. You've got to challenge yourself to CHANGE YOUR MINDSET when negativity starts tugging on you so early in the morning. Never let your emotions get the best of you...get a handle on them. Trust, there will always be a window of opportunity in those 24 hours of your day when you can vent & let out all your frustrations in a healthy way & with the right person(s).
Please believe me when I say....I'm blogging about this because this WAS me. I used to be that overly-dramatic, extra-emotional, didn't care to disguise her feelings, kind of woman in the work place. I blog to you from experience & experience only. Prayerfully, IF it's God will, I can share my experience with the women here.
I'm blogging to you from my cubicle here at work. Yes, I should be doing work, but I have a lot to say at the moment, and can't share it with the people around me :-) catch my drift? Feel free to sit back, relax, and enjoy the read. This may serve as a great time-killer. Key word: may.
Here's a little background of my work surroundings: We have about 22 employees on staff. Out of the 22 we have on staff, only six of them are men. Imagine if you will, working with 16 women between the ages of 25-66. The young adult women are mostly married, without children, and do not like working here. The middle aged women are menopausal (not taking medication), have been married for years, have children as old as I am (or older), and do like working here depending on their mood.
Now imagine all the behaviors that one woman envelopes throughout everyday life...especially depending on if it's that time of the month or not. Now multiply that by 16, add in her everyday struggles at home (spouse, kids, finances, etc.), plus her insecurities (weight gain, wrinkles, etc.) , and don't forget to add in life's unexpected happenings (death of a loved one, return of an old flame, car accident, pregnant teenage daughter, etc.). Needless to say, I work in an environment full of emotional women. We have our good days & bad days here, just like any other office I suppose.
However, it wouldn't hurt every now and then for these women to gain control over their emotions. We have 24 hours in a day to work with, 8 of those are spent sleeping (give or take), another 8 of those hours is spent here in the work place, and the other 8? Well that's on you however you chose to spend it. Since we're in the office 8 hours a day, I'd appreciate it if my female co-workers would do their best to not bring their issues here with them. I can always tell when one of my co-workers is in a funk because she's typing hard on her keyboard, slamming books/papers/pens & any other slammable item on her desk, she walks sternly, hold no smile, gives short-answers, snaps when asked a simple question, sighs heavily every 3 seconds, avoids eye contact, and the list goes on.
It's ANNOYING. I understand you may not be in he best of moods, but sheeeeesh, save all that energy for the gym sister girl! Slam things in the comfort of your own home, not the office. Just because you're having a bad day doesn't mean we all have to know about it & have a bad day alongside you. I refuuuuuse to join any "throw-a-fit" pity parties while at work because quite simply, the office is already a not so pleasurable place to be when you live in sunny southern California. Therefore, I chose to make the BEST inside these four walls for the eight hours I have to spend here because as soon as I can clock out I will be enjoying the sun for the 2 and a half hours I have left until it sets.
I honestly believe flashing your mood swings at work is a bit unprofessional. I will not be looking to working on a project with an Emo-Emily or a Pity-Party Patty. That woman is normally the last one I'd team up with. Since most women are discerning anyways that even if you didn't emotionally act up, another woman could tell something's up. Women have an intuition unlike men. We know when another woman is going through something even if we barely know them. That's just how God designed us. Because we have such great intuition, we end up asking our co-workers what's wrong or if everything's okay. We ask those questions without all the snappy drama.
This is what I WISH I could say to my overly dramatic & emotional co-workers: CHILL OUT HOMEGIRL. The women who GENUINELY care for what you're going through will discern it & will ask. Acting childishly to let everyone know you're having a bad day attracts negative attention & opens up room for people to gossip about you. On the other hand, whatever is bugging you outside of work, you've go to learn how to LEAVE it outside of work. Don't bring it into the work place with you because it'll affect your performance & your effectiveness as an employee. The battle is won in your mind & in your thoughts. If you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and head to work with that wrong-side-of-the-bed mentality, chances are, you're going to have a bad day. You've got to challenge yourself to CHANGE YOUR MINDSET when negativity starts tugging on you so early in the morning. Never let your emotions get the best of you...get a handle on them. Trust, there will always be a window of opportunity in those 24 hours of your day when you can vent & let out all your frustrations in a healthy way & with the right person(s).
Please believe me when I say....I'm blogging about this because this WAS me. I used to be that overly-dramatic, extra-emotional, didn't care to disguise her feelings, kind of woman in the work place. I blog to you from experience & experience only. Prayerfully, IF it's God will, I can share my experience with the women here.
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